Misery loves company.
Have you ever noticed that during times of emotional hardship, you may attract or be attracted to others who are also struggling? Human beings are social creatures, and we seek connection through relationships. It makes sense that when we are down, we relate to others who may also be experiencing adversity.
If you believe in energy, you may consider that our energetic vibration is lower during hard times, and we attract other 'like' energy.
Have you ever noticed that some of these people tend to become more distant as you start to heal and find balance again? This may be due to natural changes in habits, routines or boundaries. However, sometimes it is because misery loves company and when you're no longer ruminating in negativity and you start to practice healthy habits, it no longer enables unhealthy behaviours in others. It can be like putting a mirror in front of someone, challenging them to look at a reflection of themselves that they don't wish to acknowledge. So they either fade away, or they may even try to sabotage your success.
Others will provide encouragement and support while you are down, and keep on cheering when you find success. Pay close attention to these people who stand by you, as they are not threatened by your achievements.
Noticing these relationship patterns can be a painful realization, which is why having a healthy support system is so important during times of change.
Sound familiar? Need some support?
Mental health therapy is a great option to seek objective, non-judgemental support during life transitions. Therapy is a great way to seek mental clarity, and to be more intentional about reaching your goals. Reach out to our team for a free 15 minute phone consultation to learn more.